You are the Worst!

Did this title make you feel angry or defensive?  How dare I?  I wonder, though, how often are you telling yourself this very thing?

Maybe not in those exact words but do any of these sound familiar?

You can’t get anything right!
You are so stupid!
You are ugly!
Your butt is way too big!
You are so lazy!
Just give up! […]

Practicing Patience in an Instant Gratification World

I will never forget the day one of my clients exclaimed with utter frustration, “But I’ve already been patient!!” We both looked at each other for the split second that it took for the irony of the comment to kick in and then burst into laughter.

I Don’t Know…Or Do You Know?

“I don’t know.” It’s a phrase we hear a lot and probably say often. It rolls off the tongue with ease when it’s something simple.

“Where are my socks?” I don’t know.
“What is the weather going to be like tomorrow?” I don’t know
“What was the score?” I don’t know
“What should I wear?” I don’t know

When […]

Are You Bored?

Recently, I was at an event and overheard someone talking about how bored they’ve been over the last few months. It really made me stop and think. I absolutely can not remember a time when I have felt bored. I had to stop and think, “what would that be like?”

Are you Monitoring Your Progress?

I talk a lot about mission. You must have a mission. Make sure your team is fired up about your mission. But missions can be huge! How do you know that you are moving towards your mission? What progress should you make each week; each month; each year?

What is Passion and Why is it so Important?

Passion tells you that you are on the right track and keeps you moving towards what is possible. A strong purpose or passion without will or strong self-discipline gets you nowhere. You’re like a race car in park, all the potential to move efficiently but you have no forward momentum.

What Must You Let Go?

As I wrote in a recent article, we create expectations for our lives, of others, of events, that often do not match our actual experiences. It is human nature. But the result is that we spend most of our time in the gap. Sometimes, the gap is so wide it creates a shift in our entire life vision. Or, it should. At times we may continue holding too tight to that original expectation. It dawned on me that if you don’t let go, you can end up spending a life time in that one gap.

What Do You Do in the Gap?

In every relationship, including those at work, we have expectations. We expect others to act a certain way, respond to situations the way we’d like, care about the same things we care about. If you are someone who sets the bar high for yourself, chances are you also set it high for the people you share your work and life with. The problem is

Are you an Inspiration or filled with Desperation?

Every once in a while I run across a great read that so succinctly says what I’ve been telling my clients for years. “The Oz Principle” by Roger Connors, Tom Smith and Craig Hickman is one of them. It fires me up! Accountability, by their definition, is not derived through punishment and consequences but rather through ownership and empowerment. Their specific definition is:

Leadership Lessons from a Climbing Adventure – Part 5 in a Series

It’s always fun to revisit an activity like that after years. You find that you have a whole new perspective. I am at a very different place in my life than I was when I last strapped those shoes on and tightened that harness.

I guess that I must still feel pretty at ease way up the wall because my mind was on more than where I would put my foot or hand next. I couldn’t help but think about how many analogies there are to make between climbing and leadership.