As I wrote in a recent article, we create expectations for our lives, of others, of events, that often do not match our actual experiences. It is human nature. But the result is that we spend most of our time in the gap. Sometimes, the gap is so wide it creates a shift in our entire life vision. Or, it should. At times we may continue holding too tight to that original expectation. It dawned on me that if you don’t let go, you can end up spending a life time in that one gap.